Are you confusing your work for a hobby?

Are you confusing your work for a hobby?   

Yes my friends, there is a difference. I’ve preached about consistency over intensity before and yet, I find myself being punched in the face (again) with this idea. Why? Well…I’ve been hard at work building a podcast that’s going to launch on September 30th (more on this later) and I had to sit down and write a blog post for Her Life, Her Legacy and unfortunately, it was really hard (at first).

The reason it was hard to crank out the post was because I had gotten out of writing consistently (daily) because I was busy building a solid foundation for my business. Lesson learned…I mean re-learned from my man Maslow, “What a man can be, he must be.”

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. We must self-actualize, and with the gentle reminder that writers write; I’m recommitting to my daily practice of writing. I know in my heart that writing is not a hobby of mine, it’s a part of my work and therefore will be treated as such.

Here’s to recommitting to the muse.

Are you focused?


Diligence. Patience. Persistence.

None of the above exists without your focus.

What are you focused on?

We’ve heard the adage before…where our attention goes, energy flows. But where exactly are you spending your energy?

Think about what you want your life to look like in three, five, or even ten years from now.

Now think about where you’re putting your focus and energy today. Hopefully it’s into the baby steps that will lead you to your ideal. And if it’s not… what do you need to stop doing in order for you to start doing those things that will get you closer to living your dream?

Your Voice Matters


What aren’t you saying?

Oftentimes we hold our tongues because we’re tired. We don’t think we’ll really be heard. Or we don’t think our voice matters. Well…I’m here to tell you that it does. Your voice does matter. But the truth is…it’s not your voice that we’re craving,  it’s your ideas. The ideas that only you have. That if only you had the courage to share, the world would be a better place.

So again I ask…what aren’t you saying? And if you said it, how much closer could we move from our current reality to what’s possible?

We need your voice.

Listening is Love


One of my fundamental beliefs is that listening (especially to yourself) is the greatest demonstration of love. Our bodies carry so much wisdom and depending upon our levels of self-awareness and where we are in our spiritual walk, we may or may not hear the wisdom from within.

Nowadays I’m trying to do more of those things that bring me pleasure and less of those things that cause me pain. Sounds pretty simple right? But more often than not, choosing to listen to myself, my body, and those thoughts running around my mind is often quite harder than it looks.

There are so many outside influences that quickly silence that voice. We don’t want to let people down. We think we must attend a particular event because if we don’t then, “what will people say?”

Think about those times in your life where you forced yourself to do something you didn’t really want to do. It could have been spending/wasting money on something, going somewhere when you would have much rather been in your pajamas, or staying in a job that honestly doesn’t make you come alive or use your unique gifts and talents. It happens all the time. But oftentimes we think to ourselves that we don’t really have a choice…when we do.

Here’s the funny thing about doing things that get and keep you in your pleasure. You show up in the world quite differently. You actually radiate warmth, peace, confidence, happiness, abundance and wealth. Not overwhelm, irritability, stress and uneasiness. When you honor your inner voice, and listen to yourself, what you’re really saying is, I love myself enough to not <insert what you will not do because it’s not in your pleasure> and when you honor that still small voice and you choose to do things that make and keep you happy you won’t just radiate warmth, peace, confidence, happiness, abundance and wealth – you’ll be it.

Create Space

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We all have those moments when we feel like we don’t even have time to think. To just be still for a minute without the ringing, the pinging, the text messages, and blinking lights that constantly demand of our attention. But the funny thing is we do have the power to create space. Sacred spaces to reconnect with ourselves and sometimes our work. How are you creating space in your life to reconnect, nurture and tend to your true self? Are you scheduling it? Blocking time?

If you constantly feel burnt out, like you don’t have time to think, eat, or that there’s never enough hours in a day then I challenge you to challenge those thoughts and take action NOW. Create the space. Schedule it. Block it, and hold it as sacred – because it is.

And now…I’m off to my one day retreat.



Turning pro really is a practice.

One in which you have to recommit daily to yourself.

Forget what you’ve promised others. What have you told yourself you were going to do (consistently) that you’re not doing? Why not start there?

You can’t expect to keep promises to others, if you can’t honor the promises you’ve made to yourself.

But hey…I get it. This is a journey and we’ll all experience good days and bad days, but the point is…we have a choice.

A choice to honor ourselves.

To turn pro.

Which do you choose?

If this person would just…

bad attitude

Managers are often found trying to come up with a scheme to get their employees behave or show up a certain way. We’ve all been guilty of trying to fix someone in our lives that just has a bad attitude. We conjure up ways to make them more cheerful in order to put an end to their perpetual whining; when in reality there is nothing you or I can do to change someone else. In fact the only thing we can do is change ourselves and how we show up and respond to these toxic energy sucking vampires.

The great thing about being human is that we have the ability to actually step in between a stimulus and our response, and choose a more empowering response.

So the next time you start thinking of ways to get someone else to choose a better attitude or way of showing up in the world start talking to (as the late MJ said) the, “man in the mirror.” Change your ways and prepare to be amazed.

Are you holding back your friend’s business?

hold back

Let’s face it. Many of us either have friends that have started a business, are growing a business, or a providing services to us in exchange for our hard earned cash. Because we often end up buying from people we know, like, and trust, many times if we’re not already friends with these folks (our hair dressers, personal trainers, life-coaches – you name ‘em) it doesn’t take long to become friends (sometimes very close friends) with them overtime.

But what do you do when you notice that your friend isn’t exactly living up to their potential with their brand or they’re simply not keeping their promises for services you already remitted payment for? Translation: your personal trainer starts showing up ten minutes late to sessions and it seems like she’s throwing together the workout as you progress through the session. Or your business coach promised you a comprehensive marketing plan at the end of your sessions, but it’s been over a month since you’ve finished working together and haven’t even heard him mention anything about it – yet your raving testimonial for working together is prominently displayed on his website. Or maybe you have yet to purchase something, but your friend’s website isn’t quite up to snuff and you’re afraid to tell him because he’s extremely happy for the sales he’s currently raking in. But you know if he made certain changes it would help him put his best foot forward and will dramatically increase sales.

What do you do?

Well unfortunately, these scenarios are not that uncommon, and more often than not you find the folks who got the short end of the stick not speaking up for what they want or what they expect because they don’t want to make waves with their friends. They often say things like, “He’s really busy right now prepping for his Huffington Post interview. I don’t want to bother him with this.” “I know she didn’t forget about me…she’s probably just overwhelmed with the launch of her new business…I get it…she’ll get to it.” “If I tell him his site looks bad, what if he never speaks to me again?”

The bad news about taking the aforementioned approach is that you end up holding your friend back. By not speaking up, you send a message that it’s okay for these folks to NOT keep their promises, and to NOT deliver their products or services with excellence. And even worse, you put yourself in a position to have to lie to others who ask you about what it’s like to work with your friend – all because you didn’t want to make waves.

So how do you handle your friends who are not meeting your business expectations?

The answer is simple.

You make waves…but with care.

You approach them from a place of love and understanding making your wishes known and coming from a place of love with a sincere desire for your friend and their business to succeed.

Now I’d like to hear from you.

Have you ever been in this situation? If so, what did you do? Leave a comment and let me know.

Or are you in this situation right now and need advice on how to handle your friend with care? If so, leave a comment or send me a message, and I’d be more than happy to walk you through how to handle your friend with care. The success of their business depends on it.

The risk you need to take

goldfish jumping out of the water

A few weeks ago I was asked to share the last time I took a big risk. After thinking about it for a few minutes it hit me. But before sharing, I did the familiar tango with vulnerability: at first resisting his lead and then finally acquiescing so I could share.

I went on to divulge that the biggest risk I’ve taken this year, “is with all of this money I’m spending on my personal brand/self.” I explained how this year alone: the coaching I have received, travel I’ve done, my brand design plus web development, professional PR kit photos, and more rang to the tune of $12,000!

This totally freaked me out.

I’ve often battled with negative self-talk around my finances, not because I was raised poor but because my parents always invested in what mattered the most: our education, safe neighborhood etc. After which, there was rarely anything left for us to keep up with the Joneses; especially in the ritzy town we grew up in. So while we lived in a very nice community, I often heard the words, “we can’t afford it.”

This was a good thing, because it taught me to work to earn what I wanted. There were no free lunches.

After a few months of paying cash for everything this year, I got tired of feeling like my husband and I had to live paycheck to paycheck so we could fund our dreams (did I mention he’s starting his own business?) Anyway…I took a big risk, I opened an 18 months no interest credit card to create some breathing room. This breathing room was at first more like hyperventilating since this move went against everything Dave Ramsey’s been beating into my head since I’ve embarked on a mission to become debt free. However, something had shifted in me this year.

I heard the call to do this work. To turn pro. To do what I’ve been called to do in a way that serves people beyond what I can even fathom at this moment; and as a result I had to get comfortable with this risk. The risk of investing 100% in myself and in my vision for the future. (This will all unfold in July so keep an ear out for what I’m launching).

Last year my coach got under my skin by questioning if my fear of finances was really just a lack of faith.

It was.

And I vowed that whenever I started to feel afraid of my finances I would ask myself one question: how big is your faith?

So I share all this to say that the biggest risk you need to take, is the risk of investing in yourself. Take care of yourself so you can take care of others. Like a flight attendant, I’m reminding you to, “put your mask on first,” so that you can show up and serve others.

There’s something you’ve been called to do; that only you can do, and that something will involve an investment. A risk.

For me, it was financial, but for you it could be your time, your expertise your space. Whatever it is, take the risk. Invest in yourself and watch the magic unfold around you.

Now, I’d love to hear from you!

Leave a comment and let me know the last investment you made in yourself. 

Why you need to walk your own path now


The path has always been clear. The road map to “success” passed down from generation to generation like a prized family heirloom. A promise of happiness and fulfillment if we take certain steps; with society depicting our ideals and us half the time not even knowing what’s truly real.

I have one question about that paved road to success…when you’ve come to the end of the road, whose definition of success will you have achieved?

Oftentimes that path to success is defined by someone else. Not you.

The path that makes the difference, will be a path you travel (alone). Yes there will be those who went before you, but trust me when I say their path is not yours. Your set of experiences are what make your path yours.

As you embark upon your journey, down a path of success as defined by you. You’ll gain a true knowledge of self. You’ll be forced to choose courage as you battle both internal and external demons; but most importantly, you’ll cultivate one of the most intimate spiritual relationships of your life.

Yes it will be dark. Yes you will be taking a walk of faith. And yes, there will be dragons, but when you return home you’ll know true success… and your story about what you learned and the person you’ve become as a result? That will be your legacy.

Your path awaits…are you ready to step?